Everyone wants their children to be honest and never to tell a lie. However, sometimes they do not follow the right strategies to teach children to be truthful. Some parents believe that children have the temperament to lie and parents must punish their dishonesty. But this is not a right belief.
So, because of this wrong belief parents make a few mistakes in handling the children. After knowing the mistakes of children, parents confront the children with anger and threats.
They become harsh and punishable to the children. As a result, the children feel afraid of telling the truth about their mistakes.
Therefore, to let the children confess their dishonesty without fear of rejection, the parents must make their children feel comfortable.
Suppose you find the child with a cute pencil box which he brought from the school. It does not belong to him neither he received it as a gift.
Now, what will be your reaction, will you scold him or will you encourage the child to speak the truth.
You should have compassion for the child so that the child is not afraid to speak the truth. You should ask compassionately about the details of the incident and clarify what could have been done instead of a particular action.
If the parent confronts the child, the child in turn will be scared and will therefore lie or fight. In such a situation the child will refuse to admit what he has done because it takes a lot of courage to admit it.
So, it depends on the parents that how skilfully they can teach the child to accept his/her mistake. For this, parents need to be kind to their child because the child will accept his mistake only when he is sure that he will not be punished.
Important things to teach children in order to make them honest-
1 Teach them Importance of morality,
Parents should talk to their children about the importance of morality in the family. Parents must tell them how important it is for all of you to trust each other and to open up, even if it is difficult to say. Gradually the children follow the family tradition of telling the truth.
2 It is always necessary to give the correct answer
Parents are the role models of children, so parents should always be honest with their children. Sometimes there may be some questions the children have which cannot be answered directly because they may be embarrassing for the children. Such questions which are not age-appropriate should be solved ina smart way. And children should be given concrete answers so that their curiosity can be satisfied. This will make them realize the responsibility of being honest about any subject.
3 It is parents’ duty to love their children unconditionally-
Parents should love and accept the children as they are. So even if the children are lying to you, you need to be patient and compassionate with them. Make them feel comfortable to talk to you.
4 Parents must explain to their children that honesty means everything to them
As parents, you must properly explain to your kids that their integrity is everything to you. You do not believe in punishing children but in developing honesty in children.
When children understand that their parents are there for them even after knowing their mistakes, they will be more comfortable admitting their mistakes.
This happens when they know the consequences of being dishonest with their parents or anyone else. After learning the value of being honest, they realize that honesty is better for them.
Once children learn to be honest with their parents, they will always be honest with everyone because they have developed a personality that can deal with conflicts at any stage of life.