Welcome again to Parenting by Anshu and today we will discuss why we shouldn’t slap our children.
Parents get angry when children are naughty or stubborn or doing something wrong. And in that anger,
they slap the children or scold them very harshly. Sometimes they are seen doing this even in public
places. According to research, scientists have said that beating and scolding children in this way has a bad
effect on the mental health of children. In today’s parenting tips for parents we will discuss the negative
effects of being harsh with children, stay tuned.
Why Being Harsh is Not Good?
Parents who abuse their children frequently demonstrate a lack of control over their rage. They become
enraged when they witness their children misbehaving or doing something wrong, and they beat them
without realizing the consequences. Often, such parents were beaten as children and believe that beating
is the only way to keep children in control.
What should you, as parents, do?
You should understand how to control your emotions. You are irritated for some reason, and when the
children cause mischief, do something wrong, or argue with you, you lose control of your emotions and
hit the children.
Being harsh with children has a negative impact on mental development. It was observed that such
children often feel stressed; this stress gradually increases and sometimes converts into depression. Such
children also demonstrate poor decision making capability. Also, harshness scrubs away the trust parent
and children must have in the relationship.
How to Make Things Work Without Beating?
It is often true that children getting beaten are collaterals of some other issue their parents are facing. For
example, you are upset for some reason and children are doing some mischief which is pushing up your
irritation. The usual after effect is children getting beaten up or scolded harshly by you.
Instead of doing this you can try an approach of understanding which will benefit parent children
relationship for long term.
Sit with your children and share your problem with them, I am sure that the children will definitely
understand this. They will definitely stop their mischief, their wrongdoings. Children’s are not mature like
adults but they understand emotions. You just need to understand how to convey it to them. If you show
your irritation then they will not understand, they will not have any connection with it.
Rather, it is very surprising, when you tell your problem to children, they often come up with unique and
innovative solutions. Because their mind is fresh many times their solutions are brilliant.
Sometimes parents beat their children out of concern.
When children engage in risky behavior that puts them in danger, parents frequently express anxiety. For
example, if children are swinging on a swing and turn it too quickly, or begin racing down the road, they
may fall, become injured. Parents beat the children because they were concerned after witnessing such
events.
It’s a kind of stress response, but the child had no idea why he was beaten. Being stressed while seeing
your child in danger is not wrong but beating the child is certainly not a right thing to do. Instead you
should explain to him why his/her actions are dangerous and what may have happened. You must learn to explain; this is an alternative strategy that allows you to handle any circumstance.
Scenarios can be different and more intriguing. For example, children are not studying even though you
have told them many times, now you are getting angry and you beat them. Or that you have made a
discipline in the house that you have told your teenage son or daughter that they should not stay out of the house after a certain time in the night, now if they come late one day, you start arguing as soon as they come. Start scolding them loudly, they say something and you get angry and you beat them or scold them harshly.
Scenarios can be different and intriguing. For example, if your children refuse to study despite your
repeated warnings, you become enraged and beat them. Or that you have established a house rule that
your teenage son or daughter should not leave or stay outside the house beyond a particular hour in the
night, and so if they arrive late one day, you begin arguing or start scolding them loudly; they say
something, and you become enraged and beat or criticize them brutally.
Will the child correct his/her behavior from the next day?
Absolutely not!
Rather they will become stubborn and will go against your words willfully. Instead, sit with your children
and try to understand why he/she came late, or why he/she is not studying. Talk to them. They also know
that they have made mistakes and they will reason with you, and will take care of their actions in future.
That’s all…
If the tips given here help you in dealing with your children, that will be the best reward for my efforts.
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