Today in parenting by Anshu we will talk about introverted childs. Many times parents want their children to perform when a guest or a close family member visits. Like reciting a good poem, dancing or singing a song. But if the child is shy, he feels very uncomfortable and he tries to hide. In such a situation, both parents and guests say that the child is shy, and often label them as unsmart.
Often the child is there and he/she is listening and he/she gets a feeling that my being shy or feeling uncomfortable in public is some shortcoming of mine.
Responsibility of Parents
In such a situation, what should parents do so that their shy child becomes an extrovert? And you have to think about this because publicly calling him/her shy or unsmart will only increase the shyness instead of removing it. In this blog we will talk about how you can make shy children extroverts.
Shyness is an emotion in which a child feels low confidence when he goes in front of someone. Some very heavy emotional drives also take place inside him/her/her/her/her due to which he/she starts feeling nervous from within, and sometimes even starts trembling due to nervousness. A sense of insecurity and fear grasps such children. Feeling of loneliness and anxiety is also part of this.
If you want to remove shyness from your children and want to make them extroverts you need to take the right approach.
First of all, parents should try to understand the reason for shyness and its intensity. Because some children are naturally shy while some children resort to introvertedness due to some ugly experiences such as being teased by other children in school, and mistreatment by one/more family members.
Similarly, some parents are very authoritative or some parents are very overprotective, then their children also become shy. Try to understand what is the reason for shyness? If they are naturally shy then it is very easy to correct them and if there is some incident due to which they are shy then it is necessary to get them counseled. Unless you do not solve the root problem through counseling, the child will not be able to overcome shyness.
Parenting Tips for Naturally Shy Children
First we will talk about those children who are naturally shy. How should you deal with them?
To begin with, you have to understand that shyness is not a deficiency. It is not that they do not have confidence, they just do not know how to present themselves in front of others, what should they do, and what is expected from them?
- Teach Children to Handle Situations
Teach the child about being in front of people and situations. For instance, if you suddenly ask your child to perform, they will not be mentally prepared and, by and large, will feel self-conscious in the presence of people. But if you want your child to perform-be it at home, school, or elsewhere-you have to train and guide him/her beforehand. Explain the concept of stage presence: when performing, people are watching and will appreciate their efforts, which can help your child recognize and develop their talent.
- Teach from the Beginning, Motivate Them
You have to take small steps, first make him/her perform at home. Get him/her appreciated by the family members and when he/she starts gaining confidence, then slowly teach him/her to perform in front of someone outside. When he gets the confidence that whatever he is performing is appreciated then he/she will start feeling good. Then slowly motivate him/her to perform on the school stage also.
Some children feel very shy in making friends in school and they do not have confidence. You can help them a little here. Go to school and meet the teachers and ask them to help the child so that he/she can make friends.
It’s not necessary for your child to make friends with everyone in the group at once. Start by encouraging them to make one close friend. Help them learn how to interact, communicate, have fun, and play together. Once your child feels comfortable and enjoys this friendship, gradually introduce them to other peers. By training your child in this way, they will develop confidence and a sense of self-acceptance. They will also experience the joy of meeting new people.
Parenting Tips for Scared Children
Some children actually feel fear. They must have gone through some trauma in the past, are bullied or their parents are very authoritative. The fear that settles in the mind of such children does not go away easily.
- Take the help of a counselor
You must take the help of a professional counselor. If this fear stays in the children for a long time then it can gradually convert into anxiety, stress and depression. It is important that you understand the reason behind shyness in children. If the shyness is due to some trauma then it can take their personality towards a very negative direction.
Parenting Tips Online by Anshu: Final Words
Remember that if children are shy, then approach them with understanding. Avoid judgment or criticism; focus instead on the building of their confidence. Teach them how to handle criticism and rejection only then they become more secure and comfortable while interacting with other people in society. It is a second step, but first, they should be fostered with self-confidence, and allowed to have fun while interacting with new people.
All this starts with parents who take the child with empathy and judgment, then train them in the right way for their confidence, to be outgoing, and successful.
Thanks for reading, and I’ll see you in the next blog with one new topic!
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